Hiya LHers, hehehehehehehe thanks for helping me with that word Tibs. Hope your Val went well? I have nothing to say about mine because it was like a regular Saturday for me. To the day’s post. The word ‘best friend’ has never been one I find interesting, I think its because of a bad experience I had in secondary school. I had my first best friend in primary school and when they moved to another state, I became best friendless. When I got to secondary school in JS3, I met Clara (not real name) and we became so close.
Yay!
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Yay, she’s first to comment.
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**cocks shotgun** Annie! Annie!! Annie!!! How many times??…lol
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Lol Tibs
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Hmmm,I’ve learnt long in life dat u are ur only best frd!
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Very true my dear.
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***looks around*** lemme book space, I’d be back…… ***hides fone and faces the lecturer ****
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Smiles… I’m waiting Kay
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AHA! Finally free. ***Rubs Eyes***
Honestly Lily, You went really deep on this. I must confess that i almost went into tears while reading this because i relate to it. Right from childhood, I’ve never been a “people person”, buh i remember then in JSS, i decided to take the big leap and trust someone. i did it with all my heart and to me it was great. It wasn’t long before i discovered he never even considered me to be his friend let alone his bestie. That was painful! very painful! …….. In a bid not to make “this comment longer than the parent blogpost”, I’ll end by saying i now live by this quote from Drake;
“Nobody lookin’ out for nobody
Maybe we should try and help somebody or be somebody
Instead of bein’ somebody that makes the news
So everybody can tweet about it”
It might not make sense to you, but it does to me 😉
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Lol@ Kay…
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Lol,pls oh…@ Mama Tibs
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I did a similar post to this in my early days of blogging. I was watching ”knocking on heaven’s door recently” and realized I didn’t have a friend like Wunmi. I mean, nobody to cry to. The one whom I used to feel comfortable telling things, recently made me realize that she does nice things for people with the hope of getting the same in return and wouldn’t hesitate to cut you off if you fall short of her expectations.
Another one bought bags from Lagos Island and lied that they were from jand, selling for me at exactly double the prize after so much persuasions to remove a token from the initial price.
One is just not credit worthy nor relaible.
A forth one who introduced my ex to me, went back to him after we broke up to paint me black before him.
There’s this other one I even blogged about that I helped with cash to go for treatment when her boyfriend beat her mercilessly. She went about telling her story and put me in the middle as the victim. That was last year Oct or Nov. she still hasn’t paid. I heard the gist in Dec and I’m yet to confront her. I don’t know why I lack the will to do so.
NO BESTFRIENDS!
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#teamnobestfriend. My dear, once beaten two fear, lol. I do things for people because I feel happy when I do so. There’s this inner joy and peace I feel when I help people. I’m not a selfish person who believes in I do for you, you do for me. I do because I want to.
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I have best friends. I never did dat one person forever cos I’m a friend prostitute, while I was younger I used to beat myself up about it and all but along the line I finally realised that I helped myself n saved myself from wahala by not putting my “love” n all the rest in d hands of one person
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Lol@friend prostitute. I’m someone who value friendship a lot, that is why I pick my friends. I know I’m not perfect but I try to make sure that if something happens to our friendship tomorrow, it won’t be my fault, I try so much to make it work.
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I’m not user friendly. Lol
I’ve gat a few acquaintances and colleagues but that’s where it ends. Some of these peeps wanna cross the colleague zone to the friend zone but I am not open to such. I used to have a best friend tho, but he died almost a decade ago.
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I like your principle Mannie, I try so much to colleague zone some of my colleagues but you know how some Nigerians can be na, they are always in your face, trying to cross their boundaries. Famzing for no just cause.
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I like to give people the benefit of the doubt until they prove otherwise. Sometimes, when people act in a particular way, I try to understand their motive before taking a decision. BTW, the song makes sense to me and I can relate with it.
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I have never been one to put all my life into friendship. Don’t get me wrong, when I make friends I usually go out of my way to be the best person but I do it with my eyes open. I’m very sensitive and perceptive maybe that’s why I hardly find myself in that place where friends betray me. Before you move I’ve seen the end and adjusted. My guts is yet to be proven wrong.
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I’m down with you Lohla, when you don’t give room for people to betray you that is, you see it beforehand and even prepare yourself, things won’t get to you.
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True this @lohla
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Wow xo all dis happen n I was Neva aware of any I kw u guys where frnds she’s nt ur best but u r her best. My dear forget abt d pass, thank God for my #bestie# I ve neva had such experience
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I’m sure you noticed we weren’t close in SS 2 and 3 but because you were not in our class and we weren’t really going home together as we used to, you couldn’t really understand what was going on.
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The last best friend I had was the one who ruined my chances of ever being with the first girl I ever fell in love with. Didn’t find out until two years later. We’re still friends today but we catch up at most twice a year. The girl has pretty much hated me since that time even after she found out that he had exaggerated when feeding her information. Since then I haven’t had a best friend. Before him there were a few but we grow apart due to circumstances (most times distance). I’m not closed off to the idea of having a best friends in the future though. I have several close friends who could eventually become best friends.
I can’t help but note that almost everyone who has commented has had a bad best friend experience and all of them (except me) have given up on ever having one. We’ll… Let me remind you that only those closest to you can truly hurt you emotionally. They’re the only ones who know the exact buttons to press. Does that now mean that you’ll never let anyone close again? We were not created that way. Even God has his close circle of angels and if I were to pick someone who would have been his best friend from the Bible, I’d pick David. Jesus had Peter, James and John. We are made in His image so how can we not have best friends? It’s like saying you will never marry because you last boo shattered your heart.
Even if everytin I don talk no make sensethere’s no, u go sha marry one day and dat man/woman na your best friend by force.
P.S. Lily dear, abeg no vex say my comment long o. I know say I too dey write epistle.
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Lol @NB but why your comment go long pass my own? I have not given up on best friend o, maybe, just maybe my husband will be my best friend.
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@NB erm!! what if I never get married like being a rvrd father? 😀
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**clears throat** I am mad at Annie for occupying my DESIGNATED ftc position and Lily of Life for not telling me bout Kay’s post where he gave me a shout out….I think I might just send a missile to LHers….**points at everyone** y’all better take cover….
Okay….I have had bestfriends, friends who were the best and also, gotten the best out of friends….I have had the worst kinds of friends too…**sigh** It is crazy when you think bout it…especially when the friendship has been one-sided all along. I mean, it becomes really hard to trust and give a new meaning to the word ‘friendship’….cuz you wanna stay hopeful that you will get the right friend soon….mami…this story of yours is deep and a game changer cuz the way you feel since that incident is quite understandable…buh just so you know – You are MY FRIEND….a really dear one to me….(and even though I will be sending a missile down here, I will be sending it with love)…hehe….Great Post mami….You are really a terrific blogger…I am liking it.
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Lol, Tibs will not kill sombori with her comment. I totally forgot Kay mentioned you, don’t be vexed. Thanks for this comment Mami, you’re also my very good friend.
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As for best friend thing, don’t really know if I av any but I always have it I’m mind that if I tell my friend a secret am prepared to hear it later from a third party in future so that at d end when I hear it, it doesn’t catch me unawares. Then we are always fast to point accusing fingers but I always ask myself ” do I also exhibit d qualities of that kind of friend I want in another? “
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Lol @ if i tell my friend a secret, I’m prepared to hear it from a third party. Me I no go tell am my secret again na since I will hear its from a third person
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LTC is allowed here, right??? I remember the friends I had when I was still a kid, they’re the best i’ve had so far, we held nothing against each other and all we wanted to do was play and laugh but then we grew and things aren’t the same anymore…I still have great friends tho, but I doubt if it can ever be as great.
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My dear kids are innocent and they have no wicked thought. I think we’ve all have our fair share of ‘wrong friends.’ Let’s keep being the kind of friend we would like to have.
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I have some loyal friends since childhood n we still roll together…though I have bn hurt on some occasions it still shudnt be seen as a deterrence.my dad once told me to only give out what won’t hurt me in future esp secrets…I had an issue recently wit a colleague turn friend,we did a lot things 2gether bt she said some pretty nasty things abt me that were untrue which could have made me suffer in d office bt what saved my ass was d fact that I am a senior officer,so she ended up feeling guilty n trying to be friendly again…
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Ab Its been a while, hope you’re good? I completely agree with your dad your dad.
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I can’t imagine not having friends I won’t call it best friends tho just close friends. I’ve had many annoying close friends, doesn’t mean I would stay friendless. That’s why I don’t have one best friend , who do you talk to when your one best friend is not your friend at that moment.
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