Hiya Familie, how was your weekend? Hope yours wasn’t as boring as mine? For today’s post, I decided to seek people’s opinion on a topic I find interesting. This is actually the first episode of this series as I like to call it. I’m trying to start something new, once in a while, I would just come up with a topic I find interesting, then go to the street and ask people for their opinion. I will tag it #streetopinion, what do you guys think?
I decided to flow with a topic a lot of us find interesting but confusing. I say ‘confusing’ because of what the society has made us believe about it. Some say it does not exist, others say it does exist while a few others are indifferent. This topic brought a lot of drama on my fb page some years back when I discussed it. So today, I decided to bring it back to my blog. I asked a lot of people what they think about love, if it was a feeling or a decision and below are their responses.
Kelvin: It’s both. It could be a feeling which grows everyday between both parties, Its could also be a decision based on religion, culture, society etc.
Femi: Love is a decision, we decide when to love and when not to. When someone shows affection and you decide to reciprocate, it’s a decision because there might be someone giving you the same attention but you may not be interested.
Charles: Love is a feeling because when you love someone completely, you love them irrespective of their flaws.
Lucy: Love is a decision. If love is a feeling, it will control you but when its a decision, you decide who to love and what to do in your relationship.
Michael: Love is a feeling, you feel first then decide whether to love or not.
Zainab: Love is a feeling because you don’t decide when it comes, it’s a sudden attraction that you can never determine when and where it happens. If love is a decision, it means you can decide when to start and stop loving someone.
Zoe: Love is neither a feeling nor a decision, it can’t be explained.
Ken: Love is a scam for women to chop men’s money.
Feyi: Love is a feeling but could happen overtime based on one’s decision or choice.
JayJay: Real love isn’t a decision but what we have nowadays is a mix of both. You have to be sure the person meets some of your criteria before giving him/her a chance. So what we have now is a calculated attempt.
Love can be a feeling and also a decision. Love can start as a strong feeling, then you decide if you want to take the feeling to the next level that is, start a relationship with the person or fight the feeling. Have you heard people say “I never loved my husband, I never really felt anything for him when we got married, I had to just force myself to marry him, just to please my family because they felt he was best for me but later on, I decided to learn to love him because he was always nice, gentle and caring to me, he treats me like a queen bla, bla, bla.”
So which team are you? Team feeling, Team decision or both?
BTW, I was nominated by Ahmed Kanan of thekeyboardtalk for the Versatile and Liebster Awards. Please you guys should visit his blog, awesome blogger. I will be doing a post on it soon.